Being viewed as a villain.

The world teaches you as a child that being honest is something genuine. You are prodded to tell the truth at all times for your elders and your peers. Lying is supposed to be something that you get in trouble for, because the truth will be found out one way or another. But as you get older, you begin to realize that the elders kept a large amount of secrets. You find out that those same people who raised you kept telling you lies in order to keep you in a bubble of ignorance for your own protection. 

What I don't quite understand, is why is it that being honest as an adult gets you viewed as the worst villain of all? I've seen so many instances of the "oh no you didn't" look for simply pointing out something that was blatantly obvious in subtle ways. Its not like I was on the rooftop screaming to people about what they are doing wrong. I would point out certain details of what they were "currently doing" to illustrate how they are being dishonest, or not at their best behavior. 

What did this land me? I'll be frank, it landed me into a lot of closed circles and closed doors. It began a spiral of negativity that made me not so likely to succeed with many of the past groups that I associated with. It showed me that most people are not what they appear to be. To always look deeper and pay close attention to what a person really is. This landed me in a role that in most cases was looked upon as being "the villain, or the bad guy." 

A person will allow someone to totally screw them over by stealing their money, but a person that points that out is the one that is despised worse. Yeah, it is totally alright to back stab someone to get ahead, but to reveal the details of which is looked upon even more unfavorable. Yet the same people who were screwed, will whisper of the atrocities, but never speak them in the open. So why is it acceptable to be dishonest? Why is it so awesome to be an undercover villain? But to be honest, is an even larger threat. Why? 

My theory on this, is that most people cannot confront the actual reality of who they are. Most people lose themselves after childhood and put on a "facade". They do this out of ego to create a false sense of accomplishment. They do this to give themselves what they consider leverage. But then when those same people wake up in their 60's and 70's, they realize they haven't been living their own lives. They reach deep trenches of depression, realizing they haven't been honest with themselves the entire time. But by the time they are trying to make amends, they are either at death's door, or close to it. 

So my question then turns into: Who's the villain now?